What Personal Attacks Teach Us about Ourselves and Others
When others come at us and it may feel like an attack. Yet one of the most important things to remember is this behavior is about them.
That can feel hard to be present to in the moment but if you can take a deep breath, relax into knowing their words and/or behavior is about them, then you have the freedom and choice to observe their words and actions for what they are. You can respond, rather than react. And, you have an opportunity to have compassion for the inner conflict they may be experiencing.
This is also helpful when you notice yourself being aggressive towards others. Take a moment to look within and see what is really going on with you. What do you need? How can you give that to yourself? And how can you shift the dynamic to an empowering one?