How Do You Know If Your Boundaries Are Weak? And What To Do About It.
Boundaries are an important aspect of healthy relationships. When a person has strong personal boundaries, it communicates to the world that they exude healthy self-respect and self-worth.
I love this quote from Brené Brown. “When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.” It's easy to point the finger at the other person and claim they are not being responsible, "using" us, or they are draining us of our energy. While they may have some of that dynamic going on, ultimately, we are each responsible for our own energy. What we give to others and what we accept.
How do you know if your boundaries are weak? See if any of these ring true: - You fail to speak up when you’re treated badly
- You give away too much of your time
- You agree with a person when you actually feel like disagreeing
- You say “yes” to a person when you want to say “no”
- You attract people who try to control or dominate you
- You have chronic fear about what others think of you
Practicing daily self-care is a caring practice that will support your ability to set clear personal boundaries. Consider adopting some of these practices too:
- Refrain from people-pleasing - Practice saying "no thanks" without offering a reason
- Begin a gratitude journal
- Say no to tasks and events that you don't want to do or don't have time to do
- Ask for help and delegate tasks
- Drop your guilt and responsibility for others
- Speak up! Be clear in communicating your needs
- Put yourself first
If you have difficulty identifying what your boundaries are, consider scheduling a 15-minute complimentary consult with me to see how we might work through that with an Intuitive Reading or Spiritual Response Therapy. Reach out via the Contact Us for scheduling and details.